You Were Never Wrong for Being Wired That Way
The Child You Once Were Is Still Listening
There was a time when I believed something about me needed to be corrected.
I was too sensitive.
Too emotional.
Too questioning.
Too intuitive.
And because I wanted to belong, I learned to adapt. I learned to silence what felt natural. I learned to override my own instincts. I learned to perform strength when what I needed was steadiness. At the time, I thought I was maturing. Now I understand I was surviving. If you are part of a generation that was taught to manage emotions rather than explore them, you may recognize this pattern. You may have learned to suppress what made you different in order to stay safe. But here is the truth that changes everything:
You were never wrong for being wired that way.
When Your Child Activates Your Younger Self
One of the most surprising parts of parenting is realizing how often your child activates parts of you that were never allowed to exist.
When your child cries loudly, resists authority, asks hard questions, or feels deeply, something inside you may react before you even understand why.
It is not because you lack love.
It is often because your child’s freedom to feel highlights the part of you that was not given that same freedom.
I remember moments with my own children when their intensity felt overwhelming. I now see that it wasn’t just their emotion I was responding to — it was my own history. It was the younger version of me who had learned to stay quiet.
Parenting has a way of revealing what still needs healing.
Inner Child Healing Is Not Regression — It Is Restoration
When we speak about inner child healing, we are not talking about going backward.
We are talking about restoring compassion to the parts of ourselves that adapted too quickly.
Inner child healing begins with recognition:
“I see why you learned to be that way.”
“I understand why you suppressed that.”
“You were doing the best you could.”
Reiki supports this gently and powerfully. When you practice self-Reiki and place your hands over your heart or stomach, you are not just calming your present-day nervous system. You are offering safety to younger layers of yourself that may never have received it. Energy moves where attention is placed. And attention offered with compassion becomes healing.
Psychology Today – What Is the Inner Child?
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/inner-child
Reiki as a Bridge Between Then and Now
Reiki does not require you to relive your past in order to heal it.
It works quietly, beneath the story.
As stored emotional tension begins to release, reactions soften. Old triggers lose their intensity. Responses feel more conscious instead of automatic.
Over time, something beautiful happens.
You stop parenting from old survival patterns.
You begin parenting from awareness.
And your child benefits from healing they never had to ask you to do.
If you would like to explore how self-Reiki supports this internal shift, you can read more here:
Self-Reiki Is More Than Calming — It Is Spiritual Healing
https://wendylynnjohnson.com/blog/self-reiki-is-more-than-calming-it-is-spiritual-healing/
Breaking the Cycle Without Blame
Generational healing does not require blaming those who came before us.
Many of our parents did the best they could with the tools they had. Emotional suppression was often cultural, generational, and systemic.
But awareness changes trajectory.
When you begin honoring your wiring instead of correcting it, you model something radically different for your child. You show them that difference is not defect. Sensitivity is not weakness. Emotion is not danger.
You show them that healing is allowed.
For additional insight into how childhood experiences shape adult emotional patterns, this overview from Psychology Today offers helpful perspective:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/inner-child
Closing Reflection
If you have ever felt wrong for how you are wired, pause for a moment.
Place your hand over your heart.
And consider the possibility that nothing about your design was a mistake.
You adapted to survive.
Now you are healing to live.
And when you heal, your children grow up in an environment where they never have to question whether they are too much.
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