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When Children Begin Exploring Self-Soothing on Their Own
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When Children Begin Exploring Self-Soothing on Their Own Children do not need to be taught how to soothe themselves before they are ready. They need to feel what regulation looks like first. When parents consistently model presence, self-care, and emotional awareness, something subtle begins to unfold. Children start experimenting on their own. Not because…
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When Children Begin Offering Comfort to Others
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When Children Begin Offering Comfort to Others There is a quiet moment many parents and caregivers experience that stops them in their tracks. A child notices someone else is hurting—and instead of turning away, fixing, or becoming overwhelmed, they move closer. They offer a hand. A hug. A quiet presence. Sometimes they simply…
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Why Emotional Safety Matters More Than Techniques
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The Misunderstanding Around “Helping” Children Regulate When children struggle emotionally, parents often search for strategies—tools, techniques, or steps that promise quick relief. While tools can be helpful, they are not where regulation begins. Children do not calm because they are instructed to. They calm because they feel safe. Before any practice can support a…
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Self-Reiki Begins With the Parents- Why Parents?
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Why Parents Must Go First Children do not learn emotional regulation through explanation. They learn it through observation. Before a child has the capacity to regulate themselves, they borrow regulation from the adults in their lives. This happens quietly—through tone, pacing, presence, and the way a parent responds to stress. Self-Reiki begins here. Not…
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Reiki Is Spiritual, Not Religious: Understanding the Difference
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Reiki and the Fear of “Doing Something Wrong” For many parents, curiosity about Reiki is often accompanied by hesitation. Questions arise quietly: Is this religious? Is this against my beliefs? Is this safe for my family? These concerns are understandable. Many adults were raised in environments where anything related to energy, intuition, or inner…
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Why Parents Must Learn to Regulate Their Own Energy First
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Why Parents Must Learn to Regulate Their Own Energy First Parents are often told that their child’s behavior is the problem to solve. When emotions run high, advice usually centers on discipline, control, or correction. Yet emotional regulation does not begin with behavior. It begins in the nervous system. Children learn how to relate…
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When Regulation Is Modeled, Not Taught in Families
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When Regulation Is Modeled, Not Taught Many parents are taught to believe that emotional regulation is something children must be taught through correction, explanation, or discipline. Yet regulation does not begin with instruction. It begins with experience. Children learn how to navigate emotions long before they understand them cognitively. They watch. They sense. They…